'The cost of caring'- dealing with compassion fatigue

Compassion fatigue is a form of emotional and physical exhaustion that can affect individuals who care deeply for others — particularly those in caregiving roles such as family carers, nurses, social workers, or hospice volunteers.

It is often described as the “cost of caring” — when you invest so much empathy and support into others that your own emotional reserves become depleted.

This condition manifests when caring starts to hurt more than it helps — when the emotional burden of someone else’s suffering begins to wear you down.

Emotional Signs

• Feeling numb, detached, or hopeless

• Becoming easily irritable or tearful

• Difficulty feeling empathy or compassion

• Loss of joy or satisfaction from caregiving

  
  

Physical Signs

• Constant tiredness or trouble sleeping

• Headaches, stomach issues, or frequent illnesses

• Changes in appetite or energy levels

  
  

Mental and Behavioural Signs

• Difficulty concentrating

• Avoiding or withdrawing from others

• Feeling guilty when taking time for yourself

• Questioning your ability to continue caring

  
  

What Causes It?

• Prolonged exposure to someone else’s pain or distress

• Lack of rest or time to recharge

• Feeling as though you’re never doing enough

• Little emotional or practical support

• Suppressing your own needs for too long

  
  

How to Prevent or Manage Compassion Fatigue:

1. Recognise your limits — you cannot pour from an empty cup.

2. Set boundaries — it is acceptable to take breaks or say no.

3. Practice self-care — rest, eat well, engage in physical activity, and do things that bring you peace.

4. Share your feelings — talk to friends, join support groups, or consult a counsellor.

5. Find meaning — remind yourself why you care, and celebrate small victories.